Last time, we discussed how thanks to the challenging nature of divorce, many spouses either make intentional or unintentional mistakes despite their best efforts. Specifically, we discussed how one of the biggest — and perhaps most common — of these mistakes was adopting an uncompromising position regarding almost every matter in the divorce.
In today’s post, we’ll continue with this discussion, examining why some spouses adopt this obstinate position in divorce and the consequences of this position.
Can some of this stubbornness on the part of spouses be attributed to emotions?
Almost certainly. Experts indicate that both husbands and wives frequently adopt this position of being unwilling to compromise as a result of the powerful emotions they experience when they realize their marriage is coming to an end.
This makes perfect sense when you stop to consider the wide spectrum of emotions that divorcing spouses frequently experience — guilt, anxiety, resentment, anger, sadness and even grief — and the accompanying tendency to focus on past events both good and bad.
The good news, however, is that a skilled mental health professional can help a spouse deal with these emotions and help them reach a better place emotionally during the divorce process.
What are some of the other consequences that can arise from spouses refusing to yield any ground during a divorce?
In addition to prolonging the divorce, increasing the amount of time and money spent, experts indicate that uncompromising spouses can sometimes fail to see the forest for the trees at least when it comes to finances. Specifically, they may fail to appropriately consider the long-term financial consequences of their decisions such as taxes or property value.
In addition, their obdurate position could inadvertently cause them to fail to consider the needs and best interests of their children. In particular, they may forget how a prolonged divorce can be exceedingly taxing for them, causing unnecessary stress and a disruption in their routine.
If you would like to learn more about the advantages of pursuing an amicable divorce, consider speaking with an experienced legal professional as soon as possible.
Source: The Huffington Post, “7 common mistakes to avoid in divorce or separation,” Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Oct. 28, 2014