Call To Begin A Consultation
Prior Lake952-226-2015
View Our Practice Areas

Divorced grandparents come together for their granddaughter


Divorces happen at all ages for innumerable reasons. With a long-term marriage, you may have had children and those children may now have grandchildren. While every divorce has its share of complexity, the presence of grandchildren is one additional element of complexity not experienced by those who divorce young.

An advantage for an older couple is child custody and child support issues are likely to be moot. Either the children are adults and engaged in their own lives or there never were any children. On the other hand, there may be additional, non-legal, complexity. There will be no court-ordered visitation schedule, so family holidays will be up to you and your children to work out. And you may have little guidance for how to deal with grandchildren.


One divorced Minnesota couple has approached the issue in the spirit of cooperation. They were married 36 years but divorced 10 years ago. They had a daughter who was expecting her first child and they were excited to become grandparents.

But she lived in New York City, so visiting to stay and help with the baby had that special complexity. They solved it in an unusual fashion. They jointly rented an apartment near their daughter's home, so they would be within walking distance of their granddaughter.

They even used items they had saved after their divorce to furnish the new apartment. The story notes they are not spending time together and that they take turns staying at the apartment to help with and care for their granddaughter.

As one psychologist pointed out, in addition to being able to spend more time with their grandchild, they are strengthening their relationship with their daughter by demonstrating how important she is to them by helping out with providing care for her daughter.

The key for this to work after a divorce is to focus on what is really important today and in the future and not to dwell on old grievances and the past.

This may be difficult for some, but as this Minnesota couple shows, everyone benefits and in a case like this, and it truly can make the "golden years" golden, even after a divorce.

Source: yahoo.com, "Grandparents Divorced Years Ago, But They Share an Apartment to Care for Grandkid," Rachel Grumman Bender, October 19, 2015

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
Email Us For A Response

We Can Help Ask us how - please call our family law offices at 612-200-2822 or fill out the form below to arrange a consultation.

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.

Offices Conveniently located in Minneapolis and Prior Lake
  • Minneapolis Office
    2100 Fifth Street Towers
    100 South Fifth Street
    Minneapolis, MN 55402

    Toll Free: 800-219-0858
    Phone: 612-200-2822
    Fax: 612-605-0968
    Minneapolis Law Office Map

    Prior Lake Office
    14093 Commerce Avenue
    Prior Lake, MN 55372

    Toll Free: 800-219-0858
    Phone: 952-314-2617
    Phone: 952-226-2015
    Fax: 612-605-0968
    Map & Directions

  • Minneapolis Office Map
    • VISA
  • Prior Office Map