Divorce is a very personal act. It is, however, embedded in the very public institution of the courts, and so there are many reasons why some people who are unhappily married remain that way. They fear the embarrassment. They may feel the personal pain of having been betrayed by the person they loved and the prospect of making that public in a divorce proceeding may be overwhelming. They may think it is better for their children.
When you end your marriage, you typically want to have nothing more to do with your former spouse. Unless, of course, you have children, and then you custody agreement and eventual parenting plan will describe your relationship with your child or children's other parent.
There is no question that divorce is often a tricky and an expensive endeavor. However, there is no reason why your divorce needs to be more expensive than you need it to be. The key to achieving a relatively affordable divorce is understanding your priorities.
In most divorces, there is a mixing of issues that can cause difficulties for the parties. You have issues of finances. How much money is in the bank accounts, investment accounts, real and personal property, and the incomes of the couple?