Last time, our blog examined why it's so important to consider making a prenuptial agreement part of your wedding day planning. Specifically, we discussed the myriad advantages of engaged couples executing what amounts to a binding legal contract setting forth their rights and expectations regarding the classification/division of property, and/or spousal support in the event of a divorce.
Having already established just how advantageous it can be to execute a prenuptial agreement, today's post will look at how to broach this decidedly difficult and frankly unromantic subject with a soon-to-be spouse.
How do I even initiate a discussion about executing a prenuptial agreement?
Experts indicate that it's probably best if you don't initiate the prenup conversation while out for dinner or in other situations where your future spouse may be caught completely off guard. Instead, it may best to approach them when things are calm and you are free to talk at length.
What can I do to ensure that things go smoothly?
Ask almost any expert and they will probably tell you that there is simply no way to guarantee that a conversation about something like a prenup will go smoothly. However, many would also likely indicate that if you choose to frame the matter as a conversation in which you share your thoughts, feelings, fears, etc., while openly soliciting the same from your spouse, things are likely to proceed much more smoothly and productively.
What happens if my future spouse starts to become upset?
Above all else, experts urge you to always remain calm and resist the temptation to interrupt or make a negative comment. Instead, they urge you to focus on what your future spouse has to say and ask them questions that help you gain a better understanding of their mindset.
What happens if a fight appears imminent despite my best efforts?
If things appear headed in that direction, experts indicate that it's probably best to let things cool off and revisit the matter in the future using the same tactics and perhaps even with the assistance of a neutral third party.
To learn more about prenuptial agreements or divorce-related matters, consider speaking with an experienced legal professional as soon as possible to learn more about your options.
Source: Business Insider, "How to ask for a prenup without causing a breakup," Libby Kane, Sept. 23, 2014