Are you perchance about to divorce and worried that you and your soon-to-be ex will seldom be on the same page when it comes to co-parenting?
Take a breath. That mindset would hardly qualify you as being an anomaly in the realm of parenthood. Legions of parents in Minnesota and elsewhere — good parents totally devoted to their kids and with the best interests of their children unwaveringly at heart — confront some angst and fear regarding post-divorce parenting.
After all, there are bona-fide and compelling reasons underlying the termination of every marriage, and those catalysts don’t simply fade away in the rear-view mirror the instant a divorce decree is inked. As one media article discussing divorced parents and co-parenting considerations notes, “You were married and [still] know how to push each other’s buttons.”
Even knowing that, though, many divorcing spouses come to appreciate that holding back on the trigger finger is a vitally important self-imposed restraint and becomes progressively easier to do as time goes by. And, as the above-cited overview states, it materially improves “the co-parenting dynamic.”
Your marriage might have ended, but you will always be parents. And divorce annals are replete with instances of ex-partners who ultimately discovered that they were both happier and better parents in the wake of marital dissolution.
No reasonable or empathetic person — especially a legal professional — who works in the realm of family law would ever seek to promote the idea that one reality prevails and that all families march to the same post-divorce drum.
That would be both a fiction and a disservice to individuals and families dealing with fundamentally important and often challenging matters that are — in every instance — flatly unique.
Having said that, though, it merits noting that divorcing couples with kids can work purposefully and in good faith to create a healthy, loving and even better life for their kids following a divorce than was the case before a marriage ended.
Each family is unique. It is important to consider the specific facts and circumstances of each family to help create a plan that will have the best chance for success after the divorce is over. A proven family law attorney with a deep well of experience working with clients in matters involving children can provide further information.